Moving With Kids: 8 Things I Wish I Knew

Moving With Kids: 8 Things I Wish I Knew
Planning a move with children can feel exciting and overwhelming at once. With a little structure and kid-centered communication, you can reduce stress and turn the change into a confidence-building adventure. Use these practical tips to prepare your family, protect routines, and keep what matters most.
Before You Announce the Move
Kids thrive on predictability. A clear, calm explanation helps them understand what’s changing—and what isn’t. Set the tone, leave space for questions, and stick to simple, concrete examples.
Have a simple plan for the conversation
Use short, specific language: “We’re moving to a bigger place. Your bed, toys, and clothes come with us. The walls and floors stay here.” Share what will stay the same (pets, bedtime, favorite weekend traditions) and when things will happen. Invite questions and answer honestly.
| Comes With Us | Stays With the House |
|---|---|
| Toys, books, clothes, beds, decor | Walls, floors, windows, light fixtures |
| Kitchen items, photos, keepsakes | Built-ins that are part of the home |
| Outdoor toys, planters (if movable) | Landscaping and permanent features |
Involve kids early
Give age-appropriate jobs: label boxes with stickers or drawings, pack stuffed animals, make a list of “must-haves” for the new room. If possible, show photos or visit the new neighborhood, school playground, or local library to build familiarity.
Lead with calm, positive energy
It’s okay to acknowledge your own mixed feelings, but keep the overall tone confident. Kids mirror your cues; steady optimism helps them feel safe and capable.
Keep What Matters, Let Go of the Rest
Moves are easier when you honor your family’s story. Capture the memories you want to hold onto, then make space for what’s next.
Save meaningful pieces and memories
Create a photo book or video tour narrated by your child. Let kids take pictures of favorite corners, neighbors, and hangouts. Keep a small, special item (a doorknob, growth chart marks on trim replicated on a board, a beloved garden stone) if feasible.
Protect familiar routines
During packing and after move-in, keep anchors steady: bedtime steps, weekly rituals, family meals, library day, pancake Sunday. In chaotic weeks, routine is reassurance.
Connection Eases the Transition
Goodbyes and new hellos are easier when kids feel connected to their people and places.
Maintain relationships
Schedule playdate “see-you-laters,” make a contact card with addresses and numbers, and set regular video call times. Encourage kids to write postcards from the new neighborhood. Connection reduces the sense of loss.
Make the move feel like an adventure
Turn packing into a game (“race to fill the book box”), let kids choose paint colors or a new rug, and plan a neighborhood “treasure hunt” for the first week: find the playground, best hot chocolate, and nearest library.
After You Arrive
First impressions matter. A few early wins can make the new house feel like home fast.
Focus on your child, not just the boxes
Unpack the kids’ rooms first so they have a cozy retreat. Recreate familiar setups (nightlight, favorite blanket on the same side of the bed). Take short breaks to explore—one new spot a day keeps momentum up and meltdowns down.
- Display familiar photos on day one.
- Set up a “comfort basket” with books, snacks, and a favorite toy.
- Plan low-stress dinners (picnic on the floor counts).
What to watch next
Some bumps are normal. Watch for sleep disruptions, clinginess, stomachaches, or school resistance. These often ease as routines stabilize. If intense reactions persist beyond a few weeks, check in with a pediatrician or counselor for extra support.
Key takeaways at a glance
- Prepare a simple, honest script and invite questions.
- Let kids help pack and make choices about their new space.
- Preserve routines and meaningful memories.
- Keep friendships alive with scheduled check-ins.
- Unpack kids’ rooms first and prioritize connection over perfection.
FAQs
- When should we tell our kids we’re moving?
Share when the plan is firm and you have a basic timeline. For younger kids, a few weeks’ notice is usually enough; older kids may need more time. - How do we handle items that can’t come with us?
Offer choices: take photos, make a mini scrapbook, or “say goodbye” with a short ritual. Emphasize what will be waiting in the new space. - What should we set up first in the new home?
Kids’ bedrooms and basic kitchen items. Comfort and food reduce stress fast. - How can we help our child stay in touch with friends?
Swap contact info, schedule regular calls, and plan a visit or virtual hangout soon after move-in. - What if my child refuses to pack?
Break it into small jobs, set a timer, and offer choices (“pack books or art supplies first?”). Praise effort, not speed.
If you do one thing, script your announcement, set up your child’s room first, and keep core routines steady—those three steps turn a big move into a manageable, even exciting, family milestone.